Gather time, Obituary, Tiny Stories

Tiny Stories

On Sunday I woke to a pink sky. An eagle hung off the flowering cherry outside the window calling to something somewhere, competing with a tiny songbird who was celebrating the blossoms. Incongruous. Thrilling. Auspicious.

The day poured rain but there was slow-roast cabbage and herb-stuffed chicken in the oven for the Oscar marathon later. I ironed clothes and cleaned closets, the washing machine thumping. There were a scattering of touch-in phone calls, texts and emails. I put on my pajamas at 5pm. That, friends, is OK.

A day that might seem mundane was actually satisfying, filled with tiny stories that I could turn over late at night when the stars swam in the sky: stories of keeping order. Soap. Music. A basket of mending. A story of not working. A chance to let my mind wander. What do I want to accomplish this week? Maybe just that day. Maybe the rest of it will fall into place better because I took a day of reset. Maybe I will just be better prepared for the swoosh of to-do’s and must-do’s and have-to’s. Do you ever take that time to let the day gather in your hands?

I think of all those jokes about what is going to be written on our gravestones, obituaries we might write for ourselves. Mine will read,

”She loved butter and puppies and spring but nothing more than watching her children grow wings and become beautiful.” Maybe I will add the smell of lilac and laundry soap. Perhaps a line about breathing being the most essential involuntary precious gift.

What are your tiny stories?

They will be different day to day. That is the beauty of it all. Pay attention.

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Chestnut season, Funerals, Kindness, weddings

Chestnuts

I read this morning it is chestnut season in Tuscany. I concentrated on the beauty of that sentence; there has been nothing but horror to visualize recently. I closed my eyes, saw fat brown nuts, the fingertips of broad leaves curling in the sun, woven baskets, my daughter’s favorite dessert marrons glacé — a feast of candied chestnuts, vanilla, whipped cream — piled on a china plate. A short respite.

To date in 2023: five memorials, a wedding and my niece expecting. I told the bride a few weeks ago she had no idea how bright and hopeful her wedding felt to me. I have already purchased and patterned a multitude of baby gifts months before the shower and due date. How do we find light when the world seems so dark, the bombs so thick, the death so unrelenting, the anger so hot?

I find I am very conscious of being alive.

I have mourned the lives of friends over and over this year, the next chapter feeling close and urgent and more worthy than before. How to spend it?

I would like more time with my family that makes us laugh. Books. Martinis. Published pieces. Walks in new green spaces. To see you all in person, face-to-face, and talk. To share meals and stories and ideas. A chance to practice kindness every day.

I waited an inordinately long time to curbside check a bag at the airport today, then let a woman go ahead of me as she arrived late and in a lather about her flight to LA. I had the time. I had the breath in my body. Letting her line hop just didn’t seem that big of a deal.

She explained she had been in the hospital for a week with her mother and it was hard to leave her. Her two bags turned out to be over-sized, each weighing more than fifty pounds. The baggage handler waived the fee.

Kindness feels good.

Pass it on.

Rock in a garden along the road.
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