Two little words. Every one of these posts, raining down on Facebook and Twitter from my women friends, colleagues and family feels like the moment the ice bucket challenge water hit the top of my head. The goosebumps just keep rising and won’t go away.
Just like when I was groped, at fifteen, in a movie theater. Just like when the pant-less man jumped out at me on Anderson Street. Just like when the passenger standing over me on the train parted his raincoat (seriously, how cliché) and showed me his penis. Just like the lewd emails I received from a male writer after a conference. Just like the tainted martini. I felt sick. I fell silent.
Do I look like an idiot? No, I look like a woman. And what did I do? Moved seats, crossed the road, sat still and hoped it would go away, deleted the emails, tried to forget. Never told my daughters. In other words, acted like a woman taught to keep her mouth shut, not stir up trouble, smile and pretend.
Those of you that know me might just have snorted. But that reaction has been ingrained. Period. In every instance, through my entire fifty-nine years, my response has been I am powerless against this man. Nothing I do will change what happened. Not worth making a fuss.
But these two words, posted again and again by women I love and admire, makes my heart skitter. We are confessing, yes; Me. But together we are building powerful, irreversible awareness with the second word; Too.
I suspect every finger hesitated, every woman wondered, “should I do this publicly?” The answer is yes.
Because if you are nervous about going public consider something: each generation reaches higher standing on the shoulders and accomplishments of the women before them. But how staggering that women of ALL ages are posting these two words Me, Too and #metoo. This is power. This is momentum. This is all of us, together.
Solidarity breaks things. Silence. Ignorance. Powerlessness. Domination. Wrong.
Wow and Wow. I admire each and everyone of you.
We are women. Not,
2 thoughts on “Me + You”
Thanks, Alexandra. As a man, it is easy to understand women’s’ upset when this happens but almost impossible to understand how anyone could think it was OK to grope, force or expose himself on a woman whether he knew her or not. The assumption of privilege in the Trump, Cosby, Weinstein, and O’Reilly cases is appalling but clearly not isolated. It has something to do with power and insecurity but I still don’t understand it.
Thank you for your candid thoughts, Jack.