I am trying to stay afloat. How about you?
The sensible narrative: Take care of myself, limit the news, five minutes of Anderson Cooper and the children, eat more spinach, stay on schedule, hydrate.
The real narrative: forgetting to shower, waking at 4am, scrolling the news apps all day, CNN until I am so heavy on the couch I cannot get up to pee. Not peeing because I forget water.
We are wearing all Ukraine colors this week; canary yellow, sky blue, even a pair of yellow and blue bead earrings contracted from an industrious child on Facebook. Why do I feel like that blown up doll that reels back, finds itself upright, then gets punched back flat? I am helpless against war atrocities happening 5,604 miles away, the distance from Seattle to Kiev. I am angered at the audacity of the Russian leader. On International Women’s Day I weep witnessing the strength of mothers in Ukraine, their fear the worst fears of women throughout the world.
I have new heroes and enemies in 2022. Current events have again reminded me of my privilege. I donated immediately to World Central Kitchen, and then again. I am making safety pin flags to give to friends. But where to put it all when trying to fall asleep?
The daffodils burst out on the island this week despite chilly temperatures. I progress in PT. I have submitted a steady stream of essays, putting one word in front of the other to reconcile and speak beyond the four walls. I bake Irish Soda Bread.
But I find myself standing in the middle of a room sometimes.
We emerged from that stream of quarantine ennui smack into war and atrocity, inflation and more financial worries. Finding a quiet zone takes some work. I got up last night, resigned, and did yoga while the coyote howled. Whatever it takes.
For 2022 my cousins and I are practicing up-cycling, visiting Goodwill and consignment shops throughout the state of Washington. It is kind of a blast, especially for a gal who can sew and alter. We find treasures and take home improbable shirts. I have dialed down into my creative tunnel for distraction: my recent score is a vintage Irish knit sweater with a generous moth hole, requiring hours of YouTube video instructions on Swiss darning.
We walk early and watch Kingfishers and Eagles. Focusing out. Focusing in.
Are you ok?
I hear you.
3 thoughts on “I am trying.”
Dear Alex – I read your last post, as I have several before, and truly felt you were speaking of many of my days…. Although my days are filled with lots of stress and responsibilities I can only scratch the surface of – the sense of hopelessness and futility is just the same. I appreciate your writing – as it often touches the soul of what I am experiencing but don’t have enough bandwidth to write or even think about…. With love from Kailua, HI – Eliza and my sidekick Sirjana.
Eliza thank you for writing me. Such a tough time in the world and our hearts. Soak up a little sun for me. 💜
I’m just seeing this today and you have described my life to a Tee. I have been bringing things to Sals. Tooth brushes. Tooth paste. I think it is time to shop too.
Stay Well Alex. Hang in there with your PT ask them for a relaxing pose.
missed you at Easter